The guy is the most anti-father guy I know. His dad left him before, so he has his own reasons. He was pushed to marry a gal and father the baby... i know the feeling and he has second thoughts. But he is now a father! He ought to start his blog... even to the day before the kid came he was thinking "damn i hope the baby doens't make it" -- haha sick but true. he's very frank that is important.
The issue we have is nobody wants to discuss the dark side.. i'm sure there are many dads or moms who didn't want a kid and now that they have one they hate it. However all we can ever really hear is "oh you'll love it when you have one" or "i love my kids but they drive me crazy sometimes" or its tough blah blah blah.
Reddit had a great analogy
http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jsvjy/are_there_any_parents_out_there_that_dislike/
"Are there any high school dropouts out there?"
*"I finished high school."
*"I did too"
*"I thought about dropping out, then didn't"
*"My cousin seems like the kind of guy that might drop out.. we'll see"
*"I didn't think I was gonna finish high school, but then I did."
*"You'll finish high school, don't worry about it.
*"Yeah dude, you'll definately finish high school, even if you think you won't."
*"I'm a high school dropout! ... Just kidding, I'm a novelty account, haha."
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Same thing happened when a redditor wanted to know about childfree older couples who don't regret it. 500 comments saying "We're really glad we had kids!" or "I'm only 17, but I somehow know you'll definitely regret not having them!"
What I find fascinating about Reddit, specially Ask Reddit and IAmA, is the ability to find out about other people's lives and what they really think about things.
But it never works when the question is taboo. You just get 500 comments supporting the status quo, and any comment that answers honestly is buried.
Another one:
http://parenting.blogs.
nytimes.com/2011/06/10/a-
father-with-regrets/
Anyways I question it because i'm not sure either, and I hate to be filled with regret. Then again I hate not having tried and never knowing....
If i could only live two lives and find out which is better... alas I only live once.
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