My friend posted this article
http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090712/lf_afp/lifestylejapansocietymarriagepopulation;_ylt=AtH0wGQUh2WcOpdwRIbnSSoDW7oF
About marriage hunting. Its true, Japan is a weird place. I find a few things of interest:
- Some people get married just to get married because its time or want a baby.
- Many people get married just to anyone who makes money (same anywhere maybe).
- There is a mad dash at 26-28 to hurry up, because after 30 you are old news.
- Most of the unmarried population of females is (to be brutally frank) unattractive. Any hot girl has many suitors. (Conversely populate of single men are not exactly rich).
These marriage parties or meeting parties (called kompa or gokon -- arranged by friends of friends usually in packs of 2-on-2 or 5-on-5) are prevalent in the society since aggressive western behavior of hunting for your mate at a local bar is not acceptable conduct. So outside work and school.. you have only one option but to go to meeting parties!
But same thing anywhere.. good stuff is in demand. Just as a hotshot good looking investment banker is in demand, so is any girl who has a nice body and face to match --they aren't going to marry anyone. I see it everyday at the local bar and the gokon events I've gone to... desperate females.. but all pretty unattractive. Occasionally a pretty gal comes by, but they have their standards set beyond the reach of mere mortals like us.
My gf once told me.. her guy friends would say, hey don't you have any friends you can intro me to? So she would bring a single friend who is pretty unattractive and they would say... "uh you don't have any friends more like.. like you??" -- and she basically concluded all her friends who are single at this age (30) are not too attractive. Such a superficial world we live in.
Its a sad game we all play in the big cities like this. I envy those who find true love.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090712/lf_afp/lifestylejapansocietymarriagepopulation;_ylt=AtH0wGQUh2WcOpdwRIbnSSoDW7oF
About marriage hunting. Its true, Japan is a weird place. I find a few things of interest:
- Some people get married just to get married because its time or want a baby.
- Many people get married just to anyone who makes money (same anywhere maybe).
- There is a mad dash at 26-28 to hurry up, because after 30 you are old news.
- Most of the unmarried population of females is (to be brutally frank) unattractive. Any hot girl has many suitors. (Conversely populate of single men are not exactly rich).
These marriage parties or meeting parties (called kompa or gokon -- arranged by friends of friends usually in packs of 2-on-2 or 5-on-5) are prevalent in the society since aggressive western behavior of hunting for your mate at a local bar is not acceptable conduct. So outside work and school.. you have only one option but to go to meeting parties!
But same thing anywhere.. good stuff is in demand. Just as a hotshot good looking investment banker is in demand, so is any girl who has a nice body and face to match --they aren't going to marry anyone. I see it everyday at the local bar and the gokon events I've gone to... desperate females.. but all pretty unattractive. Occasionally a pretty gal comes by, but they have their standards set beyond the reach of mere mortals like us.
My gf once told me.. her guy friends would say, hey don't you have any friends you can intro me to? So she would bring a single friend who is pretty unattractive and they would say... "uh you don't have any friends more like.. like you??" -- and she basically concluded all her friends who are single at this age (30) are not too attractive. Such a superficial world we live in.
Its a sad game we all play in the big cities like this. I envy those who find true love.
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